It is strange how one can find the habit of irritating another person without realizing that sometimes you do exactly the same thing irritates you. My husband and I recently shared some of these habits with each other. I shared it abuses the word "right". This is very inconvenient for me, because it seems that every other word is "right." He shared with me that after almost every sentence I say, "you know what I mean?" Sometimes I'm not even finish my thought, but instead of saying, "you know?" Now, whenever we talk and he said "right" or I say "you know" we laugh just.
So, that irritant communication habits do you have? While it is easy to say "No!" I have compiled some tips that might help you refine your communication skills and make you aware of a habit communication others may find less effective!
- Expand your vocabulary - try to be aware of what you say and avoid excessive use of words or phrases. When you learn a new word, look in the dictionary to get both the pronunciation and meaning (s). In addition, there are many sites that offer a "word of the day" like this: http://www.merriam-webster.com/word-of-the-day/
- Avoid interrupting - interrupt the conversation is a bad habit that can lead to miscommunication, broken relationships, and missed opportunities. Some people interrupt because they do not want to forget their idea, they are excited about an idea, or they want to finish the sentence of another person implies that they are in agreement. You can not plan your interruption to cause harm, but unfortunately it may appear to others as a lack of respect, impatience or poor listening skills. In an effort to avoid interrupting, trying to take notes or to wait at least two seconds after the other person finishes talking before you start talking
- Check your tone of voice -. Some people tend to make their voices heard when they get excited, excited, or nervous. . However, increasing your voice that you might be causing the other person to become upset, defensive, or uncomfortable
- Use "I" messages - rather than saying things like, " you really messed up here," begin the statements "I" and make yourself and your feelings. "I feel frustrated when this happens," is less adversarial, the sparks less defensive, and help the other person understand your point of view, rather than feeling attacked
- Look for compromise -. remember the purpose of effective communication skills should be mutual understanding and to find a solution that pleases both parties, not "win" the argument or "being right."
We all communication errors that we can work. Have you found yours?
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